Handjob on the 3rd date, too slow or fast? Do you guys think I am moving too fast or too slow if I'm looking for a relationship? Also there was heavy kissing on the first date but not the second. |
| In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with it but I mean everyone has their own opinions. |
Do you ejaculate faster during sex than during a handjob or oral sex? Never had it. Wondering if it will be faster or slower. It kinda takes a while when my girlfriend uses her hands and does oral. |
| Depends on the man and the woman. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. |
How to give AMAZING handjob ? ohk ,well ..
i dont really think this is a handjob
but when im sitting beside my boyfriend.
WITH CLOTHES ON !
he rubs my leg & stuff , but i want to do the same.
but on his d***
but ive never really done this before?
do i go really slow or fast ?
& yes , were both going to have our clothes on . |
do it slowly coz you'll have your clothes on, but it might imply that you want him to take his clothes off, then that would be different. dunno it depends.
but slowly over his clothes. |
Less pleasure from girlfriend's handjob? The other day I received a handjob off my girlfriend for the first time and I received less pleasure than I normally would then when I give myself one. I tried to guide at first but it didn't work so I started it off until the point of pleasure was so high that anything she did would climax me quickly which was very pleasurable. However is there any tips I can give to my girlfriend (non-explicitly) to help her provide me with more pleasure initially and require non of my guidance.. Will taking it at a slower pace and speeding up more slowly be beneficial, or guiding her more so with the rhythm?
Do the feelings experienced from a long period of masturbation that is slow increase in pleasure? What would the be best, as probably my girlfriend does not have the stamina to go for such a long time as fast I would normally do?
Any help would be great thanks! |
Honestly, it's pretty normal that your partner isn't going to give you as good a handjob as you can give yourself. She can't feel what your penis feels, and therefore she can't respond to what feels good.
Speaking as a woman, I LIKE to be able to give my partner pleasure. This means that I prefer it if he can give me pointers as to what he likes and what he doesn't like. Honestly, all guys are different. Different speeds, different grips, different areas of focus... Feedback should always be given in a positive, constructive way though: "Ooo, I like that", "Try it a bit faster", "I'd really love it if you did this". I honestly prefer feedback, but she may still feel a bit self-conscious about it (especially if she's young and suffers from the idea that she's meant to be perfect at sex all the time). If she wants to make you happy don't, for heavens sake, get impatient and try to finish it yourself. That will just leave her feeling like she's failed.
I'd also like to note that, as a woman, my arm gets tired when giving handjobs. I don't know how men keep it up for so long, but I guess they just get used to it. :)
There are other things that you can try. Have you considered simultaneous mutual masturbation? This will give you something else to concentrate on while she's playing with you, and might make you worry a bit less about how long it's taking. Do you guys do oral sex? Would she consider something like a titty f**k? Try to keep things light and positive, but keep those lines of communication open. |
Is this a good handjob? my boyfriend wants me to give him a handjob but i'm not very experienced. so i think i got this straight from what i've heard. so basically you (1) rub his penis up and down with a somewhat tight grip, (2) massage his balls, (3) start out slow, but get faster as time goes by.
so what i'm wondering is.....
(A) what's a good way to massage his balls?
(B) and what should i do with the tip of his penis?
(C) and when should i spit on my hands to make it comfortable for him?
please don't be immature and say i'm too young and stuff, k? thanks. oh and don't tell me to give him a bj because i'm not going to and he knows that |
You forgot something. Lube or lotion.
Use one hand to do the balls while the other is around the shaft. Ask him if he likes the ball thing, I really don't so be sure while doing it.
The tip is very sensitive, so only rub it bit and when he is about to come.
Don't spit, use lotion.
Stop with the not giving a bj, get over that, if anything with the tip bend down and lick it a bit that's all.
-Shawn |
How do i make it clear i want to take things slow?????? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!… well i met this guy about three weeks ago...and weve been texting flat out...and went to the cinema once and met down town once...we were supposed to go to the cinema again but his uncle was in hospital so we couldnt...hes 19 and im 17...hes quite pushy but i told him that i wanted to take things slow...and he said that he would...but the last time we were kissing he just whipped out his d**k and tried to get me to give him a handjob...i stopped him after a bit and he was fine with it...so how do i make it clear to him that i want to take things slow without him thinking i don't like him...PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
| Tell him to stop. DO NOT let him pressure you. If he whips out his package again, get up and walk away. He needs to respect the fact that you want to take things slow. If he cant do that and he continues to be pushy, then you are going to have to make a decision whether that is moving on without him, or giving into him. DO NOT do anything you are not comfortable in doing. That will only lead to regret later. Good Luck!!! |
Handjob?! What is the problem ere!? Im with this new guy and when i give him a hadjob he never cums. Like i vary the speed and tension. I have asked him if im going to fast or two slow and he says its perfect. at times i feel like my arm is about to fall off and i jst stop which he prob is annoyed about..but my arm! Why might this happen. This never happened with any other guy |
| Try using your mouth instead of your hand!!!! |
Really (GIRLS ONLY!!!!!!).....what methods do U use in giving a handjob? Seriously.....I would like to know practically how you are doing it.......slow/quick.....what do use U when U make it....some tips......U get the idea......AND IF U WANNA JOKE GO AND BOTHER SOMEONE ELSE....AND DON`T ASK STUPID QUESTIONS LIKE WHY IS THIS QUESTION POSTED IN THIS CATEGORY (JUST BECAUSE).......I AM SERIOUS ABOUT THIS....... |
If you are "serious about this" this, the best way to enjoy this is to tell your partner what feels the best to you and to be honest when something your partner does is not so pleasant.
Good communication is the best aphrodisiac. |
What makes a handjob bad? ive given my bf two and recently found out that he really didnt enjoy it too much? why? i mean i just started slow and built up speed untill he came. i used lotion and touched his testie and whispered to him, so whats the problem. i just want to give him what he deserves |
| if youre ready he probably wants a BJ |
How do i give a good handjob? iv always had guys either say that im going 'to hard'
or 'to fast' .. 'slow down' andt elling me to relax
realy i just have no clue what im doing down there
i just fondle with the head a bit andgo up and down on the shaft
what is a good technique
i dont giive them that often because of this i just know that there thinkingits so ****
how fast should you go and when do you start going fast |
Go at a slow even pace. Count to 3 on the way up, and count to 3 again on the way down. Once in a while stop and just hold it for a few seconds, maybe squeeze it a little and play with the head using you thumb and finger, then go back to stroking.
When he is starting to *** that's when you go fast (or when he tells you), stroke it as fast as you count, about 1 second per stroke. |